Part 1) Why don’t abuse children speak about the abuse?

If you can imagine someone three or four times larger than you and three four times stronger than you intimidating you on a daily basis. The imagine you are just discovering that grasshopper jump, birds fly, how to speak, write your name or how to add. A child cannot be expected to have the understanding and the ability to know that what they are experiencing is abuse. What they see is what they believe is true. Until an adult steps in and tells them “you don’t deserve this”, “ this is not right”, they don’t know the difference. They just know how to protect themselves. If that means smiling, if the abusers says you better smile and act happy or if they say “do not talk, let me do all the talking”, the child will comply. For them it’s a matter of life or death, no differently than a hostage that is held and terrorized will comply just to survive.

Abused children often feel alone. They are shamed and blamed, isolated and silenced so that the abuse stays secret. Some children rise up and survive because of inner strength. They don’t have role models so they parent themselves. They watch how other families live, see how other people treat their children and decide who they’re going to be. Some choose how they’re going to impact others and be different than the toxic household they grew up in.

Other children stay in the victim mode, stay angry and become bullies like their abuser. Addictions, Depressive and Anxiety Disorders, Personality Disorders such as Narcissism, Borderline Personality Disorder, Sociopaths or Psychopaths can be linked to child abuse. Jails would be emptied and less people medicated or self-medicating if we eradicated abuse.